Beyond knowing God and understanding who He is, we must always remember that He wants to be close to us. God doesn’t want to be someone we only remember when we walk into church, when we need something, or when life becomes difficult. He wants to be part of our everyday lives.
Having a personal relationship with God means allowing Him to become part of your everyday life, not just the part of your life you bring to church. It means talking to Him when you are happy, when you are confused, when you are excited, and when you don’t know what to do next. It means praying when you need something, but also praying because you simply want to spend time with Him.
It means opening the Bible not only to find a verse for your problem, but because you genuinely want to understand who God is, what He desires for your life, and what it means to walk with Him. It means learning to recognise His ways, allowing Him to correct you, and trusting Him even when His answer is not what you wanted.
A personal relationship with God is not built in one dramatic moment. It is built through the small things you repeatedly do. You wake up and remember Him. You make a decision and ask Him for wisdom. You are about to do something wrong and something inside you reminds you that you know better. You fall, and instead of running away from God because you feel ashamed, you learn to run back to Him.
You begin to understand that God is not only interested in what you can give Him. He wants your heart.
There is a difference between knowing about God and actually knowing God. You can know Bible verses and still not know what it means to walk with God. You can attend church every Sunday, listen to sermons, sing worship songs, and still have a relationship with God that exists mostly around other people’s experiences.
You can know what people have told you about God and still not know Him personally. You can hear people talk about prayer, faith, obedience, and intimacy with God, but there comes a point where you have to ask yourself if these things have become personal to you.
A personal relationship with God begins when God becomes personal to you.
Look at David. David was described as a man after God’s heart, and when you read through the book of Psalms, you begin to see why. David did not only come before God when he was happy or when he had something to be thankful for. He poured out his heart before God. He talked about his fears, his worries, his insecurities, his anxieties, his pain, his confusion, the things that made him happy and the things that made him sad. He told God exactly how he felt.
David teaches us that having a personal relationship with God is not about pretending that everything is okay all the time. It is not only about going to God when you are thankful or when life is going well. Sometimes, it means coming to God when you are down and simply saying, “Lord, this is how I feel.” When you are afraid, you can tell Him. When you are disappointed, you can tell Him. When you are confused, you can tell Him. When something hurts you, you can tell Him. You don’t have to hide your emotions from God just because you are trying to have faith.
God still understands you even when you are struggling to understand yourself. He doesn’t chase you away because you came to Him with your fears, questions or disappointments. He wants you to come closer. He wants a relationship with you.
When you think about what a relationship means, it is about two people continually coming together and getting to know each other on a deeper level. It is not just about knowing someone’s name or knowing facts about them. It is about spending time with them, learning their ways, understanding what matters to them and becoming familiar with who they are.
The same thing applies to our relationship with God. Yes, God already knows you. He knew you before you were born, and He knows every part of you. But beyond God knowing you, He still wants you to know Him personally. He wants you to know His character, His heart, His Word, His ways and what He desires for your life. He wants you to recognise what pleases Him and what doesn’t. He wants you to become familiar with His presence and learn what it means to walk with Him every day.
That is why a personal relationship with God goes beyond simply attending church, listening to sermons, singing worship songs or knowing Bible verses. Those things can help you grow, but they should lead you into actually knowing God for yourself. At some point, what you have heard about God has to become something you personally experience through your own walk with Him.
You begin to understand what it means to worship Him from your own heart. You begin to know what it feels like to talk to Him when nobody else is around. You begin to recognise the things He is correcting in you and the areas where He is asking you to trust Him. You begin to understand that God is not only interested in what you can do for Him or what you can give Him. He wants your heart, your honesty and your relationship with Him.
And sometimes, intimacy with God can be as simple as waking up and remembering Him, talking to Him about your plans, telling Him about something that made you happy, crying to Him about something that hurt you, asking Him for wisdom before making a decision or simply sitting quietly and wanting to know Him more.
Imagine that you are going through a difficult season. You have applied for jobs and nothing is working. Your relationship is confusing. Your finances aren’t where you want them to be. You are praying, but you are beginning to question whether your prayers are even being heard.
Someone who only knows about God may immediately panic and start looking for solutions everywhere. But someone who has been building a personal relationship with God may still be afraid, but they know where to return.
They can say, “Lord, I don’t understand what is happening, but I know I can talk to You about it.”
That is a relationship.
Having a personal relationship with God doesn’t mean that you will never be afraid. It doesn’t mean that you will always understand what God is doing. It means that even when you don’t understand, you know where to return.
You have learned that you can bring your questions, your fears, your disappointments, and even your confusion to God without pretending that everything is fine. You learn to keep God involved.
Start making God part of the ordinary parts of your day. Talk to Him before you pick up your phone in the morning. Tell Him about your plans. Ask Him to help you with your attitude, your decisions, your relationships, and the things you struggle with.
Read a small portion of Scripture and actually think about it. Don’t read the Bible only because you want to complete a reading plan. Read because you want to know God better. When something good happens, thank Him. When something hurts, tell Him. When you make a mistake, return to Him. When you are confused, ask Him for wisdom.
This is how you begin growing closer to God. Not through trying to appear spiritual, but through genuinely allowing Him into your life.
Don’t make your relationship with God more complicated than it needs to be. Start showing up. Start talking to Him. Start listening. Start reading His Word. Start being honest with Him.
This week, don’t just ask yourself, “How much do I know about God?” Ask yourself, “How well do I actually know Him?”
Ask yourself whether you talk to God only when you need something or whether you genuinely desire His presence. Ask yourself whether you allow Him into your decisions, your relationships, your emotions and the parts of your life you don’t understand. Ask yourself whether you know what His Word says or whether you are allowing His Word to actually change the way you live.
And if your relationship with God has become distant, don’t wait for the perfect moment to return. You don’t need a perfect prayer. You don’t need perfect words. You don’t need to have everything figured out before you come back.
Start with one prayer. One chapter. One honest conversation. One step.
Sometimes intimacy with God begins with simply saying, “Lord, I want to know You for myself.”
